Empower Your Neuro-divergence!

Coaching, consultation and connection for

Late-Identifying Neurodivergent Adults

inVermont and Beyond

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Hi! We’re Amy and Miranda co-founders of ND Friendly Life.

As late-diagnosed Autistic ADHDers ourselves, finding each other and learning about neurodiversity has been magical and game changing for both of us! It has felt like a wave of relief that we knew we wanted to share with the whole ND world.

Get the support that’s right for you.

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Those days before you identify are tough…

Ever get sick of hearing yourself say:

“frozen pizza…again?”

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“My partner’s at their breaking point…

One kid is ADHD and the other just got diagnosed Autistic with PDA…

And I’m realizing they get it from me!!!!”

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“I used to be so together…

What’s happening???

The systems are still there but

I can’t make myself DO them anymore…”

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The sink is full of dishes and the laundry is piled to the ceiling...

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I am exhausted from pretending to the world that I have it all together…

Am I masking?

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But all I can do is scroll #ActuallyAutistic and #ADHDLove alternately laughing and crying.

This is me… but is it?

How could I get to be 30… 40… 50 years old and not know it???? It can’t be true…

Am I pretending to be Autistic?

WHY WOULD I DO THAT WHY AM I SOOOOOO WEIRD?????

Oh shoot… it’s almost dinner time again… what’s in the freezer…

… pizza again???!!!!

Struggling to meet the demands of your day?

Exhausted and overwhelmed?

Brain not… braining anymore?

Resonating with the things you’re learning about neurodivergence?

Ready to finally understand and accept yourself?

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We’ve Been There and We Get It. Believe it or not, you’re perfectly normal for an undiagnosed, masked, or late-identified Autistic-ADHDer.

Welcome home.

It’s easier said than done, but letting you be you is the first step to feeling better.

We believe that embracing who you are and connecting with others like you is a world-changing act of resistance against systems that said you were wrong, bad or different. Those messages were wrong.

You are

EXACTLY

who you’re meant to be.

And we’re here to help you accept, appreciate, and delight in yourself, cheering you on as you connect with your neurodivergent culture.

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Our Team

  • Self-identification is an honored tradition in Autistic culture, but sometimes we want some support and data during the process! We can help you with that. Also one on one coaching can be a great way to get that external perspective on a deeply internal experience.

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  • A lot comes up when you realize you’re neurodivergent. It’s a whole thing, and talking to people who get it can be an incredible relief.

    Sometimes your old ways just don’t work anymore. Redesigning your life after identifying can be complex, but you don’t need to do it alone! We can help.

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  • Most of us have spent our lives knowing that “just be yourself” was the kind of advice that could get us bullied, kicked out, or worse. We’ve had lots of experiences of rejection, ridicule, or a life lived SO inside the lines that we don’t even know what would happen if we relaxed our social-skills monitoring. Here you get to practice sharing yourself in a small, curated group of other ND adults like you.

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Our specialties

Stop trying harder, start doing what works for you.

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1

Reach out

Book your consultation below. In this brief call, we’ll discuss what’s going on for you and help you decide where to start. We offer multiple options for support and would be happy to go over them with you.

2

Get to work

Embracing your neurotype is no small step. It’s going to take some learning, self-reflection and creative exploration to move forward. And we will be right by your side every step of the way.

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See change

We’re not talking about changing YOU…we mean changing your environment, schedule, and maybe even your relationship to yourself if the thought of being “EXACTLY you” makes you shiver.

Ready to get started?

You’re worth it.

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